Love requires us to live by encouragement.
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home.
There are many "trends" now in days: There are those against millennials, saying we need to be tougher on our kids, and stop spoiling them.
And those who are trying to keep up with unrealistic expectations, like the Kardashians.
I get it, its difficult being married or having kids.
None of us come with a users manual or guide. But see, that's the very thing that makes life beautiful.
You have to realize, every one of us is a one of a kind master piece. We each have distinctive heart rhythms, eye patterns, our own unique blood constitution and finger prints. With every birthmark- is a one of a kind, trade mark.
Television, magazines, music, basically everywhere we turn, we are faced with unrealistic expectations. Expectations which only breed disappointment. This only sets us up for daily failure.
We need to learn to live by encouragement rather than expectations.
We need to stop expecting others (our spouse's, kids, coworkers, friends, relatives) to understand all we are thinking, desiring, and wanting. Stop expecting them to accomplish all we are hoping!
Instead we need to focus on their strengths, and point out what they do right. Encouraging and building, not exhausting and belittling.
Discover what makes them feel most fulfilled, then you can focus your attention more effectively.
Uncover and embrace the treasure you have been given, by accepting and affirming their individual design.
Loving requires us to discover with direction. It's part listening, and part learning..Finding out their dreams, desires, how they think, and grow.
THEN, instead of chasing someone else's dreams, and expectations, they can mature and be secure in their own.